Guest Post by Abby Bramski
Getting Mom's Help in Wedding Planning
Most mothers are thrilled when they find out the news that their daughter is getting married. So if you
have recently delivered this exciting news to your own mother, there is a good chance that she has
offered to help you when it comes to planning out specific details of the wedding. And while this can
be a blessing, and it is certainly nice to have all the help you can get, it is important to recognize that
you may not want to let your mother get too carried away with wedding planning, as there is a lot that
can go wrong. Instead, you may want to sit her down and have a talk with her prior to beginning your
wedding plan in order to set some ground rules and have things go as smoothly as possible.
What Could Possibly Go Wrong?
There are various possibilities as to what might go wrong if you let your mother take control of too
much of your wedding planning. For starters, moms tend to get so excited over their daughters’
weddings that they overdo certain aspects of it. For example, you may find that she is picking out floral arrangements or other décor that are way more extravagant than something you would ideally pick out for yourself.
This ties in to another common problem in letting moms plan weddings: a difference in taste and
opinion. You own mother will likely have her own wedding planning experience to refer back to as she tries to plan yours. And, depending on how long ago her own wedding is, some of the things she might pick out or have planned could be considered outdated today. And of course, there is no easy way of telling her this, which is why it is best to have a conversation before hand, stating that you would love her assistance and input in planning the wedding. However, at the end of the day, it is your wedding, so you should be able to make your own decisions, especially when it comes to fine details.
How to Handle It
If your mother has begun to take over your wedding planning process to your dismay, the best thing to do is to sit her down and start by thanking her for all of her help. Then, calmly explain to her that this is a once in a lifetime chance for you to plan your wedding and pick out things that you want to have for your special day. Explain that you still want her to be a big part of this but that you would prefer to make more of your own decisions. From there, you can continue with your wedding planning and still have her support.
Today’s guest post was written by Abby Bramski. For more help with planning your wedding, check out PaperStyle’s wedding etiquette.